[When it comes to Jotaro's problems with Jolyne, Joseph tries to be thoughtful about it for a moment because it sounds... Okay, well, it's not just like Joseph's situation (or Polnareff's), but it's sorta close? It's just the opposite where Jotaro's been told some not so great things, or maybe had them implied to him, and now he's trying to reconcile who he's becoming here with the person his daughter remembers. It's similar enough that Joseph feels confident that he could give similar advice he gave Polnareff and yet is questionable as to whether or not he's taken it himself. He just has to be careful not to touch on Polnareff's situation with Giorno or his own situation with Jotaro and Holly. The latter being especially important because the last thing Jotaro wants to do is add that to Jotaro's plate when in reality, it's up to Joseph to manage it.]
you know i was pretty angry with lisa lisa when she told me the truth. i was mad that she never even tried to tell me the entire month we were training on air supplena, that she told me she'd tell me her connection to my family after our fight with wamuu and kars, and that she was practically forcing me to guess at it when she tried to talk about it here in the city. i was mad that i'd been lied to about what happened to her and that she left me behind, but i hated her a little for that part because i could have had a mother at least if she hadn't lost her cool after my father died or maybe she could have done something else that didn't involve running away and faking her death. but i had some time to think and i realized that she was scared that something bad would happen to me because of her. so she had to leave and she had to lie to me to keep me safe. i don't like it, but i get what she had to do now.
the point is, i think sometimes it's hard for kids to see it from their parent's perspective because the fact they didn't get what they wanted from them hurts a lot. it's easier to be angry or even hate your parent in that situation than to feel hurt about it.
you did some shitty things and made a lot of mistakes with her, but i don't think you were really ever a shitty person, jotaro. i think that's jolyne still struggling to understand you, just in the meanwhile it's easier for her to hate you or hold it against you than to think about there being a reason behind whatever it is you did or didn't do.
maybe it's that you need to not become that person, you just have to be able to think better than the person she remembers and make better choices that allow for a little compromise between what you have to do as her father to keep her safe and whatever it is she wanted you to do instead. you'll probably still make some mistakes with her because you're only human, but i think she'd probably understand you a little sooner rather than later or never in that situation.
so, try not to beat yourself up over it too much, yeah? when you get to that point in your life, you'll do better. just worry about being who you are right now and the rest will fall into place.
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[When it comes to Jotaro's problems with Jolyne, Joseph tries to be thoughtful about it for a moment because it sounds... Okay, well, it's not just like Joseph's situation (or Polnareff's), but it's sorta close? It's just the opposite where Jotaro's been told some not so great things, or maybe had them implied to him, and now he's trying to reconcile who he's becoming here with the person his daughter remembers. It's similar enough that Joseph feels confident that he could give similar advice he gave Polnareff and yet is questionable as to whether or not he's taken it himself. He just has to be careful not to touch on Polnareff's situation with Giorno or his own situation with Jotaro and Holly. The latter being especially important because the last thing Jotaro wants to do is add that to Jotaro's plate when in reality, it's up to Joseph to manage it.]
you know i was pretty angry with lisa lisa when she told me the truth. i was mad that she never even tried to tell me the entire month we were training on air supplena, that she told me she'd tell me her connection to my family after our fight with wamuu and kars, and that she was practically forcing me to guess at it when she tried to talk about it here in the city. i was mad that i'd been lied to about what happened to her and that she left me behind, but i hated her a little for that part because i could have had a mother at least if she hadn't lost her cool after my father died or maybe she could have done something else that didn't involve running away and faking her death. but i had some time to think and i realized that she was scared that something bad would happen to me because of her. so she had to leave and she had to lie to me to keep me safe. i don't like it, but i get what she had to do now.
the point is, i think sometimes it's hard for kids to see it from their parent's perspective because the fact they didn't get what they wanted from them hurts a lot. it's easier to be angry or even hate your parent in that situation than to feel hurt about it.
you did some shitty things and made a lot of mistakes with her, but i don't think you were really ever a shitty person, jotaro. i think that's jolyne still struggling to understand you, just in the meanwhile it's easier for her to hate you or hold it against you than to think about there being a reason behind whatever it is you did or didn't do.
maybe it's that you need to not become that person, you just have to be able to think better than the person she remembers and make better choices that allow for a little compromise between what you have to do as her father to keep her safe and whatever it is she wanted you to do instead. you'll probably still make some mistakes with her because you're only human, but i think she'd probably understand you a little sooner rather than later or never in that situation.
so, try not to beat yourself up over it too much, yeah? when you get to that point in your life, you'll do better. just worry about being who you are right now and the rest will fall into place.